Dating as a Millenial
As a millennial, I see the world differently compared to
baby boomers or the generations before me. I am completely ignorant to what dating was
like before millennial's because what I see now became my reality. I barely see
men take women out on actual dates, we don’t communicate effectively due to
technology, marriage is not the end goal any longer, online and casual dating
is the new hype, and relationships are viewed as a burden. For women and men
that want meaningful relationships and friendships, struggle to find one.
As a single college student, I don’t recall the last time I’ve
been on a date where I’m asked to the go to the movies or to dinner which
resulted in my disinterest of the dating scene. The millennial version of dates
is defined by these two words, Netflix and chill. Men are not being held accountable
for not courting a girl and making her feel special, that is thrown out the
window. Respect for women is disregarded and vice versa. Self-respect and self-worth
redefine themselves in order to keep up as well.
Texting is another millennial dating technique that is
misused. Texting instead of face to face communication hinders us from human
interactions and create miscommunication and misinterpretation. Texting is
great to keep in touch but not to have real conversations.
Millennial's are known to break down traditions, but I believe
traditions are what keeps us afloat and sane. Take marriage for example, today
marriage is viewed in some eyes as a negative arrangement which pushes
individuals to the conclusion that marriage is a ridiculous idea. The fear of heart break and disappointment decides
for most of us which gives birth to arrangements like civil unions. A civil union consists of the activities that
the wedded does excluding the marriage ceremony aspect. Couples live together
and promise themselves to each other, but not till death.
And of course, the
online and casual dating scene. No one wants to be tied down to just one person
and the use of meaningless sex in replacement of a relationship. Don’t we see
that we’re hurting ourselves even more by attempting to prevent heart break
from an unsuccessful relationship. We’re disregarding our self-worth and self-respect
for temporary pleasures because of Fear. Fear is the abstinence of courage. If we
continue to surrender to our fears, we will never grow.
Everything you have ever wanted, is sitting on the other side
of Fear.
-George Addair
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