How to truly love Someone
In this day and age marriages don’t last anymore, casual
dating/fwb are a thing, and loving someone else is viewed as a “burden” or “too
much work”. Have we lost our desire and ability to truly love someone else? We
all desire to have someone that loves us no matter what we do and to stand by us through thick and thin. In society today when things get hard, we dip
because our fears, childhood traumas and insecurities make our decisions for
us. As I watched an episode of Red TableTalk with Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow Smith, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, Justin
Baldoni, and Wale, Jada said something that immediately had me
thinking. “When you believe that someone is constantly pissing you off or
pushing your buttons, that is a chance for you to evaluate your fear and to
work on yourself”. When we remove our fears and insecurities out of the
equation, we can think much clearly and respond with love.
So how do you truly love someone? By loving yourself first.
Stop being so hard on yourself, embrace your flaws, allow yourself to make
mistakes, speak words of affirmation to yourself, don’t allow satan to whisper
lies in your head that may seem like the truth but isn’t, forgive yourself the
minute you screw up, and never give up on yourself. Today we compare ourselves
so much to unrealistic and fake personas that others portray on social media
platforms. Others even compare us to other individuals which in turn makes us
feel inferior. No two person is exactly the same, so why should they be
compared. Accepting where you are in life and trusting in God that he has a
plan for your life is a pretty darn good step to loving yourself and another
person.
Now to truly love someone is to love them unconditionally.
No matter what they do, you will still love them. Unconditional love does not
mean allowing someone to treat you like a doormat or encouraging bad behavior.
Unconditional love is accepting the person “as is”, doing whatever is in the
best interest of the person aka tough love, not passing judgements, choosing to
stand by their side at their lowest point, and having no expectations. When we
can first do these things for ourselves, it will easily transfer to another
person.
References:
1) Are Humans Capable Of Unconditional Love: https://hillwritingandediting.com/2017/04/12/are-humans-truly-capable-of-unconditional-love/amp/
2)Red Table Talk: https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/490825758114375/
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